Experience of American man with Ukrainian women
I’ve had relationships with two Ukrainian girls, and both were very different. The latter, unfortunately, falls under common stereotype about what to expect from a woman from Eastern Europe. So I would like to tell you first about her. She was beautiful in appearance, but very soon I realized she is ugly inside. She believed that the whole world should revolve around her; she did very little in order to realize her dreams herself, but expect it from me instead. She wanted me to provide her all for the “good life.” She liked to wear nice things, go to beautiful places, but she had complete lack of the personal. She did not want to work on herself, she did not want to learn, and she did not want to look for a job either. I will never forget how once at the restaurant, she demanded I bought her flowers, or at the ballet she suddenly leaned toward me and asked for money on her shopping. She found the time! In a word, she was not the best woman for dating, and even more so to spend the rest of life with her. So I broke up with her.
Relations with other Ukrainian women were of different kind. It does not fit into any one stereotype of Slavic women, which once again proves that stereotype is nothing more than a label used by people to generalize because of the reluctance to understand the essence of things.
She was beautiful not only externally but also internally: a very intelligent, well-read, at that time she was about receiving a doctorate. She was keenly interested in culture, art, music, she has travelled a lot and could tell me so many interesting things about everything (her English was fluent, although she was constantly in doubt and was embarrassed with her “meager” vocabulary). Life for her was of paramount importance as well as friendship. I can tell she appreciated her friends more than gold. She was a fantastic girl who took care of me. I took care about her as well: I was pleased to give her flowers and gifts, and she never asked for them, unlike my other Ukrainian girlfriend.
I think if it were not for the distance (until she finished University, we had to live in different countries), we would be already married. We’re still good friends, so I do not think that all is lost forever.
If we talk about the difficulties in relationships with women from Eastern European countries, the language is the littlest of all evils. The difference in culture and education would make you sweat! A simple example: if you have birthday in USA friends would buy you birthday cake and in Ukraine the birthday cake has to buy birthday person himself. Where is the logic? Why the one who has a birthday must spend half a day in the shops and in the kitchen to feed and entertain friends? In the United States a party would be organized by your friends and you can relax.
Another obstacle, which is almost never mentioned, is the difference in the cities in which we grew up. My hometown is three times bigger than that in which my ex-girlfriend from Ukraine grew up. All in her Ukrainian town was close to her home: studying, shopping, cinema. Everything was within walking distance. In the US, the car is a necessity, everything is at a great distance from each other and public transport is not everywhere and often. When I visited the girl in her hometown in Ukraine, I felt uncomfortable. What she felt nice and cozy (the cinema, shops, parks are at hand!), I was annoyed. When she came to visit me in America, I was indignant that the car needed even to buy a cabbage, not to mentioning other stuff like going to the movies, visiting friends etc.
If to judge about “the outside” of the Ukrainian, Russian or Belarusian women, the answer can be only one: they are extremely beautiful! They care about their appearance and do not leave any items unattended, knowing that men look at them with wide eyes.